“The Deepest Principle in Human Nature is the Craving to be Appreciated”
~ William James ~
Shut your eyes for a moment and think about the last time someone made you feel valued and appreciated. Hopefully it won’t take long for you to think of a situation…a person…a time and place where you felt like someone really understood your value.
Now open your eyes and answer this question honestly: How did it make you feel?
Priceless at NO Cost
It doesn’t cost you a dime to be aware of other people’s value and let them know you noticed. This is one of the areas where I feel my work is greater than most. Margaret Cousins is quoted as saying, “Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” One day, a couple of decades ago, the truth of Margaret’s statement hit me hard. I felt strongly about my own value, but felt few recognized what was valuable about me. I made a commitment to tell people I appreciate them every chance I get.
“Thanks” – “Thank You” and other similar words are used so frequently they have lost most of their meaning. Sometimes we utter the words without even a little bit of thought. Using the word “Appreciate” is much more powerful and is just as easy to use. I try to use it as often as possible. I tell people I appreciate something about how they show up in the word. Sometimes strangers are shocked by my words of appreciation.
Appreciation as LOVE!
The only thing we need more than appreciation is love. (Que the music “What the world needs now is love, sweet love.”) Yet when we show appreciation to those we love – it simply feels like love. Here are a few more quotes about appreciation. I hope one of them resonates with you.
“The best way to appreciate those you love is to think ahead and picture life without them.”
“Learn to appreciate what you have before time forces you to appreciate what you had.”
“If someone doesn’t appreciate your presence make them appreciate your absence.”
“A person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected.”